More loving ...
I've just received the following message entitled "More loving" as an email from a friend. Whilst I don't believe that forwarding it to my friends will improve my life in any esoteric sense (and I certainly don't believe in unpleasant surprises if I don't), I do believe that discussion of its content, in order to deepen my own understanding, might do so. So I invite you to comment on any/all of the 'wise words' below - are they good advice?
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ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
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ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
Always difficult to know what people expect. However it is the little difference that makes the big difference.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
Never realised how true this was until recently.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
As you well know I absolutely agree with the last one!
FOUR. When you say, “I love you,” mean it.
Means different things to different people – so in that sense everyone can mean it.
FIVE. When you say, “I’m sorry,” look the person in the eye.
I never apologise. I’m sorry but that’s just the way I am.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
Never get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
I do. However, I wear glasses.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
I have in the past been guilty of mocking people’s ambitions if they involved moving to or travelling around Australia.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
I think there are other ways to have it large.
This all well and good. People have different capacities to give and receive love. Important to find like-hearted people.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
All is fair in love and war or so they say and so the saying goes.
ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.
I’ve been guilty of that.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
Think and talk quickly. Life is too short
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?”
Or make up an answer. Not enough people can lie convincingly and they should practise.
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk
Clap clap
FIFTEEN. Say “bless you” when you hear someone sneeze.
Not in Japan, where no one except me says anything.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson
I think we probably learn all the important lessons in life by the age of 5. I certainly think I was better equipped to deal with the “real world” when I was 3 than when I was 23.
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
Responsibility is vital. But if someone harms you it is OK to not blame yourself.
EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
Define little. If you are disputing over fundamentals then just find some new friends. The world is a big place. I’ve dumped friends if they done something wrong the way I’ve dumped girlfriends. Lame people keep bad friendships.
NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Do not do what I do and then cover it up expecting it to go away.
Went out with a girl once – the first few months were brilliant then I realised I couldn’t trust her. I realised I’d make a mistake. How do you correct that?
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Like the Japanese, answer the phone with “Moshi-Moshi” – that always makes me smile.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
But make sure you are in the right frame of mind to do so. Time alone when someone has upset you or you are down can be very dangerous. Important to do things by yourself though and outside of your “comfort zone”, even if they involve other people.
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